In today’s blog post, we interview Victor, who lives with a parter that has borderline personality disorder.
Dating, having a favorite person, idealizing someone and then devaluing them, are all the not-so-fun parts of living with borderline personality disorder. As a mental health disorder that robs you of your self-value, sense of identity, and creates a confusing world of relationships (that are usually one sided), dating while living with BPD can feel like a burden.
Some of the cycles that borderlines face, while dating, looks like…
There's a shock with coming to terms that you're the spitting image of the woman who you spent your adulthood rejecting. When you wake up and take a good look in the mirror, to find that you're staring back at your mother. Same hair... same eyes... even the same birthmark on the collarbone. You were able to run from it when you were younger. Got away with dressing with clothes that wildly differed from her's. Dyed your hair blues and pinks. But then you age... and one day, you realize that you look just like your mother.